So my grandmother's looking a lot better. Yesterday, my family gathered together to discuss her treatment plan. My grandma ultimately decided to try to get stronger first, then try chemo if it's still viable. I think she made a wise choice there: if she tries it now, it would be disastrous, plus she would feel like complete and total shit for the rest of her life. At least she'll be working towards feeling a lot better, then attempting to extend her life a little longer when the therapy would have a better chance of working.

The drama comes in because when my dad and uncle and auntie were discussing the plans that needed to be made, my mom felt that our family has adopted an unfair burden compared to the others, especially my auntie's family--considering that she got the bulk of my grandparent's inheritance through buying the house from them for 30% of what it would have been sold at on the housing market in the mid-1990s. And that would have been a lot--we DO live in the Bay Area, after all.

She's also unemployed, yet she had the gall to say that we did something wrong when we promised my grandmother we'd come to visit when we didn't because our own business got in the way. You see, my grandfather's been pretty stressed out recently over having to take care of my grandma, because he can't leave the house to do errands or anything like that. So we said we would come and relieve him of his duties for a little while, but we couldn't because we had our own errands to run and that was the only time we could do it. Why my auntie didn't come over--since she lives 5 minutes away and doesn't even fucking work--is beyond me, especially since she took away the only thing my grandparents had that was of any value. Why are WE the ones who have to drive 20 miles to get there--when we are immensely busy during the week, when we already do so much that it's disrupting our own lives to the point where my family doesn't get home until 8:00 and my sister can't do her homework efficiently because she doesn't have a solid block of time to do so. Wasn't my dad the one to spend the most time in the hospital with my grandmother? Wasn't I the one who had to drop a class because of all the time I spent in that hospital over the weekend, making sure that my grandpa had time to eat, take a shower, get stuff from the house? Wasn't my mom the only one who changes my grandmother's fentanyl patch whenever it needs a change--every three days? Don't we already see them almost every single day?

It's frustrating, the incongruity of expectations. It pisses me off to know that I'm the one being depended on--and I have a job, I go to school, I am preparing for my biochem GRE to enter grad school. Why can't one of my other cousins--especially the unemployed one--go over to relieve my grandfather from his duties every once in a while. Does he not live within walking distance?

So at this point, my mom feels like everyone expects more from us. I feel like everyone expects more from me, personally. And we're still stuck with an equal share of the bill for the hospice care--the ONLY thing that the families share equally.

Whatever. I'm better than all of them. I'll do whatever I need to do, and when I'm on top, they can all beg me for help and kiss my ass. And I'll give it to them, because I'm like that, but I'll make sure they know who's in charge.

I hate the whole inheritance, fair share shit. That NEVER happens! Some greedy bastard always has their hand out for more. That is why when I die, my kids each get %100 percent of what I have and that is nothing! So there! ha ha!
» kKaMa67 on 2007-06-04 01:42:08

Your aunt should get a wake up call. Since she likes to talk so much, why not you guys keep a log on how many times you guys bump into her while at your grandparent's place and shove it in her face. She reminds me of those lechers on aunts and uncles that I have.
» Nuttz on 2007-06-04 10:34:22

Sounds like a similiar situation with my family. When my grandmother died, my aunt and uncle only got like a half of an acre of land. They did practically everything for her and that's all she left them. However, she left her house and the land that my other uncle was living on to him and he didn't do hardly anything for her. Gotta luv it.
» Southern on 2007-06-05 01:16:35

I hear what you are saying. The ones that take the most give or gave the least. That is so terrible. People like that make me want to punch them. you know?
» kKaMa67 on 2007-06-05 01:25:45

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